Private Infant FAQs


Private Infant FAQs

Can I be single and adopt?

Of course you can! Vista Del Mar has many single clients.

We’re still trying to get pregnant. Can we still go through the adoption process?

Yes.

Can I be LGBT and adopt?

Absolutely. We have worked with many birth parents who specifically desire to relinquish their child to members of the LGBT community. The Adoptions and Foster Care programs have earned the HRC Seal of Recognition for being leaders in the field of building LGBT families.

What is a home study?

All adoptions require a home study. The home study is a narrative that describes who you are and why you desire to adopt. It is a legal document that includes information gathered during interviews,medical information, fingerprint clearances, references, training and other related information. This report is also used to match you with your desired situation. You can tell us specifics such as age, gender, ethnicity and background factors that you are open to for your adoption.

After my home study is approved, how long will I wait to be matched?

The waiting time varies from family to family. Many of our families work with adoption attorneys and facilitators that help speed up the process. Most of our families are in matches within 12 to 18 months, some much sooner.

Will we be assigned a social worker to support us through the process?

Yes. Once your home study is completed, you will be assigned a social worker who will be there to guide you throughout the adoption process as well as provide birth parent counseling and relinquishment services.

How many infants are placed annually in the Vista Del Mar Domestic Adoption Program?

Vista Del Mar works closely with several leading adoption attorneys and facilitators. In addition, we also reach out to local hospitals and maternity clinics to counsel birth parents on an adoption plan. Between 50-75 infants are placed each year.

Can we apply to more than one adoption program at a time?

You can work with more than one adoption attorney, facilitator or agency for the purpose of increasing your chances of being matched with a birth mother. Adoptions at Vista can coordinate the efforts between other providers. Adoptions at Vista also offers you the option of pursuing more than one path to adoption. As one of a very select few agencies we offer private infant, international and foster to adoption. You can learn about all three and pursue one or more of our programs.

When can a birth mother sign relinquishment documents?

There are strict laws that pertain to the relinquishment process and Vista Del Mar adheres to and supports those regulations. Birth parents must wait until discharge from the hospital before signing relinquishment paperwork. This is a very difficult decision for a birth parent to make, so it is important that they fully understand what they are signing.

Am I responsible for birth parent expenses?

In most situations there will be additional costs associated with supporting the birth mother in her last trimester of pregnancy and 4 to 8 weeks after delivery. The expenses must be associated to the pregnancy and meet the guidelines of the state in which the relinquishment is occurring. It is illegal for a birth parent to request payment for the adoption. Vista can assist you in starting an expense account for birth parents and in determining legitimate expenses.

When is the adoption final?

There is a mandatory six month supervision period during which time an adoption specialist will visit with you and your baby at least four times in your home. These visits are to ensure that you have all the resources that you need as a new parent and to help you, your baby and your family adjust to life together. The finalization of an adoption is typically nine to twelve months, but most of our cases finalize in a much shorter time period.

What is the Adoption Assistance Program and can my adopted child qualify?

The Adoption Assistance Program (AAP) is a federal program of financial assistance available to all children adopted through the foster care system or for children adopted through an agency if the child meets certain criteria. Children adopted through an independent adoption (meaning without an agency and solely through an attorney) are not eligible.

The adoptive child is eligible to receive AAP until age 18. In some cases, where the child has a mental or physical disability, he or she might receive AAP Program benefits until age 21. A child who qualifies for AAP benefits is also eligible for health care services through the Medi-Cal program. Medi-Cal can be used for most necessary medical services. When the adopting family has private medical insurance, Medi-Cal can be used as a supplemental plan.

What’s the difference between open adoption and closed adoption?

An open adoption is when the birth parents and the adoptive family have the opportunity to get to know each other and co-create an arrangement for sharing information in the future such as pictures and updates.

A closed adoption is when both birth parents and adoptive parents choose not to meet or share identifying information either before or after the baby is born. Only about 5 percent of adoptions are closed in the United States.