Thank you for taking the time to read my profile. I can’t imagine what a difficult choice this must be for you. The most difficult choices we make in life, we often make alone. Having said that, I ask that you keep an open mind and remember that families come in all shapes and sizes. A child can thrive just as well in a single parent home as a two parent home, as long as there is a loving support system of extended family and friends. As the saying goes; “It takes a village, to raise a child.”
About ShelahAbout Shelah: I grew up in Cleveland, Ohio in a family of hardworking people who valued education. My mother was a teacher and a single parent who made sure my sister and I received good educations. My sister and I both have our master’s degrees. After graduating from New York University, I lived in New York for about nine years before moving to Los Angeles to work in the film and entertainment industry. I was fortunate enough to get a job at Warner Bros. where I have worked at for over twelve years.
I work for one of the largest entertainment companies in the world. I am an executive assistant and I love my job because it surrounds me with some of the most talented people in the entertainment industry. The division I work at specifically is DC Comics--the home of Superman, Batman and Wonder Woman. How lucky I am that I get to see these beloved characters every day when I come to work. My company is very supportive of working parents, and offers benefits such as on-site day care and flexible hours to help accommodate parents. My co-workers’ children love to visit our offices; it is a kid’s dream!
My company encourages volunteerism and helps make volunteering more accessible to employees with busy schedules. I mentored to students in middle school who had a passion for art and I volunteered at Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles. I love that I have a chance to give back just by virtue of where I work.
My family is my support system. They have helped me reach my goals and have been there in difficult times of disappointment. My younger sister, and I, were raised by my mother and grandparents. My mother and sister still live in Cleveland, but I see them a few times a year (holidays and summer vacations) and talk to them regularly. I have two awesome nephews, ages sixteen and six, and love hanging out with them when I visit. I have an aunt and uncle who live here in Los Angeles, as well as cousins. I also consider my closest friends my family. Everyone in my life has been very supportive and encouraging of my decision to adopt.
Things I Enjoy:
I enjoy cooking and trying different foods from different cultures. I like watching movies, going to museums and the theatre. I like volunteering, especially with young people. I enjoy learning new things; so I am always taking some type of class. I am currently learning to play the piano for the first time in my life! I think it is important to nurture whatever creative interests one has. (Even if one is not necessarily exceptional at them.) I would love to be good enough at piano to one day teach my child how to play!
My Home and Community:
I live ten minutes from my job in a spacious apartment with a gated pool and a front yard. My building is child-friendly and a few of my neighbors have small children. My surrounding neighborhood is very family oriented. There is a pre-school in walking distance as well as several parks. I live in an area with access to plenty of activities for families with children. For example, on Sundays, there is a farmer’s market near me that has pony rides, a small train for the little ones to ride and a climbing wall for older kids. I am also in walking distance to Universal Studios theme park.
At home, I have a cat who loves people and one day I would love to get a dog. Also, my aunt, who is a retired teacher, lives in my building, so I always have access to a babysitter!
My Thoughts on Parenting:
Whenever I talk to a parent, they usually tell me it’s the hardest job in the world. They say you can read all the best books and take classes, but it never prepares you for how hard it is. Nothing is about you anymore, but about raising a human being to be their best self.
I know that being a single parent has its challenges, but I have so many people in my life who are supportive. More importantly, I am at a place in my life where I am financially and psychologically able to give my all to someone else. I feel I have been blessed in many ways and want to share those blessings. Children need all the love and patience that we can give. They need guidance in navigating a sometimes unfriendly world. They need protection and encouragement. They need parents who live by example and who try to be their best selves. Whether we realize it or not, children listen and watch us carefully. So who we are impacts who they will become. If we want our children to grow up to be kind, strong and caring individuals, then we must be those things ourselves.
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