Michael & Alastair

Dear Birth Mom:

We are thrilled to have this opportunity to share with you a little bit about our life together. More than anything, we want to be parents, so we are incredibly grateful that you are considering us as an adoptive family for your child. We deeply admire your courage and strength in making this decision.

About Michael & Alastair

We can truly say that we are each other’s best friend. We were married in 2015, but have been together for a little over seven years. In that time, we have built a full and happy life filled with love, laughter, and many fun adventures. We met one night in the early summer and both knew instantly that we’d found something special. Alastair was leaving for a job in another city just a few months later though, so we also knew that we had to make a choice. Do we make this work or do we let it go? Seven years of love and adventures later, we know we made the right decision. Since we first met, we’ve traveled around the world, built a strong community of friends and family, bought a cute little house just fifteen minutes from the beach, and said “I do” under a clear blue sky. We are both lucky to have stable, rewarding jobs that still leave us plenty of time to do the things we enjoy, from hosting barbecues for friends in our backyard to attending outdoor concerts around town. Family is important to us as well, and we feel blessed to have loving and caring parents and siblings in our lives. Since early on in our relationship, we knew we wanted to start a family together. We believe we are now at a place in our lives to provide a happy, nurturing home, and we can’t wait to extend the love, support, and commitment we have for one another to our child.

MEET MIKE (by Alastair)

Mike is truly one of the kindest people I know.  He puts those he cares about first, and is selfless to a fault.  He has incredible empathy, always knowing the right thing to say when I’m feeling down, and giving great advice to his family and friends when they encounter problems in life.  I love Mike’s curiosity for the world around us as well--he’s always reading a new book or learning some new fact, especially about nature and our environment, two things he cherishes.  He puts a lot of these new facts into action in our garden, which he tends to great results, meaning plenty of homegrown fruits and vegetables for our table!

I cannot wait to be a parent with this amazing person.  I know he will always be there for our child, through the ups and downs, with a patient heart and a kind and caring spirit.


I sometimes joke that Alastair is an old-fashioned gentleman from a different time. He is a man of high standards and strong principles, taking both his personal and career obligations very seriously. His devotion to our family makes me feel safe, secure, and supported. However, he’s also a clown underneath all of that! One of my favorite things about Alastair is when we are discussing a serious topic and he tries to keep a serious face to match it, but then breaks into a huge smile and laugh with the gentlest of nudges from me. Alastair has a not-so-secret love of boy bands, bubblegum pop, and bad country songs. He has been known to take over the microphone at karaoke joints, having performed in an a cappella group in college.

His blend of responsibility and silliness is why I know Alastair will make a terrific parent. I can already picture him patiently teaching our child how to scramble eggs (he’s a great cook!) in our kitchen, helping with math homework at his big desk, or reading a story on our couch before bedtime.


We live in a quiet, established neighborhood on a hill near a large university. Our cul-de-sac is full of kids on bikes and friendly neighbors walking their dogs. There is a highly rated elementary school next to the college, and a huge selection of ethnic eats on a boulevard just to the south. Great beaches are just a 15 minute drive away, as is a world-famous zoo and several hip neighborhoods.

We knew we’d found the house for us when we saw the backyard; a small grassy area surrounded by fruit trees leads to a patio overlooking a peaceful canyon, giving the illusion of country life, even though we are in the middle of a large city! On Sunday mornings we often walk to the local cafe for omelettes and coffee on the patio with the newspaper. After that, the coast is only a few minutes to the west, or the mountains are a short drive to the east. On warm evenings we walk a loop through our neighborhood along a canyon trail; we look forward to having a stroller along with us on our walks in the future!


We are so lucky to have a loving, supportive, and diverse network of family and friends! Mike comes from a small and tight-knit family, with his mother, father, and younger brother living here in San Diego.  He also has aunts and cousins nearby in Orange County. Mike has fond family memories of houseboating, waterskiing, and road trips throughout the West.

Alastair’s mother, father, and two younger brothers live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and we visit them frequently for holidays and other family gatherings.  Alastair has a large and boisterous extended family, with over a dozen aunts and uncles and even more cousins.  They love spending time together, especially at family parties!  One of Alastair’s favorite memories is celebrating Christmas Eves with all his aunts, uncles, and cousins, especially when one of the uncles would dress up as Santa Claus and deliver presents to kids young and old!

Both our families are so excited to welcome a new child into our lives.  Our parents, in particular, can’t wait to be grandparents for the first time!

We also have a great circle of friends both locally and around the country.  Whether having dinner at our house, or a picnic in the park or the beach, we always have a blast with them.  Several of our cousins and good friends also have young children, so our child will never want for great friends to play and grow up with.


  • Providing a safe and loving home for our child, full of laughter, friends, and family.
  • Going on family road trips together up the California coast and throughout the West.
  • Staying healthy together by emphasizing good nutrition and physical activity.
  • Providing our child with an excellent education and every opportunity to succeed in life.
  • Attending every sporting event, musical recital, or activity our child participates in.
  • Opening our child’s heart and mind to the world beyond his or her everyday experiences, whether by travelling to different places or simply reading new books, trying a new sport, or playing a new game.
  • Being our child’s biggest cheerleader and strongest advocate throughout his or her life.
  • Making big memories out of even the small moments together.

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